Dating multiple people at
I know I need to make a decision before things go too far (becoming too physical), but how do I know when?
I am trying not to let things move too fast physically or emotionally, but they both seem very interested and I just don’t know what to do.
Over the past few weeks in particular, I’ve had quite a few readers tell me that they’re dating multiple people, something I find exhausting just thinking about it, but at the same time rather fascinating because I find that people give me all sorts of reasons for they do it: I’m just experimenting with dating. Remember how you didn’t like it when Mr Unavailable had a narcissistic harem of women he was dipping in and out of for an ego stroke? It’s where you discover the facts that will help you determine whether you should green light, date some more and potentially move into a relationship, or whether you should red light and abort the mission.
Couldn’t you ‘experiment’ with one person for a few dates, see how it goes, and then move on? Do the people who you are dating know that you’re potentially wasting their time? As people no matter what they tell you, don’t always date for the same reasons, dating someone and getting to know them will let you determine through their actions and interactions (not just words and your imagination) whether you are two people on the same page with similar primary values.
“Rotations give you the opportunity to not close doors on people who may be great for you.Making a decision about a guy is no different than any other decision.You weigh your pros and cons, you do your cost-benefit analysis, you use a little logic and a little emotion, and then make a largely arbitrary choice without knowing if you’re right.Things have been going well, and I give a lot of credit to what I have learned from your book, emails and this site.However, this is not something I have ever done before and I am having a hard time with the idea of juggling.